Flirting: Fun, Playful, Universal…

Flirting: it’s that cheeky wink, a playful compliment, or some not-so-innocent banter that can take an ordinary moment and make it unforgettable.

Why Flirting Is fun:

There’s something undeniably cool about flirting. It’s a part of human interaction that has always fascinated me and brought a smile to my face, whether I’m doing the flirting, receiving it, or even just observing from the sidelines.

A cheeky comment to a friend or co-worker (shhh, don’t tell HR), a wink to a stranger across a bar, a sly compliment to the barista at Starbucks (pro tip, flirt well if you want your name spelled correctly), flirting is one of life’s simplest pleasures and can sprinkle a little magic into even the most mundane day!

I think that one of the greatest things about flirting is that it is universal, anyone can do it, with anyone, no matter your gender, sexuality race, creed, whatever.

Common Misconceptions:

Does flirting with someone of the same sex make you gay? Not at all! It could just mean you really appreciate their fabulous outfit or sharp sense of humour. Flirting is admiration, not a confession. – by the way, boys, your ‘banter’, yep, that IS flirting 😉

Does flirting mean you want to ‘do’ anything with someone? Nope! (Well, not in my book.) Maybe you and they are just feeling a little cheeky and playful!

Does any human ever flirt without knowing they are doing it? Absolutely fucking not, everyone knows when they are flirting – they might play coy, but trust me, they’re fully aware. Flirting is NEVER an accident.

It is just a fun way of interacting with another human that is a little more than conversation but not as much as what would be deemed ‘intimate’.

How to flirt:

Flirting is a state of mind—it exudes confidence, and we all know confidence is attractive, right?

BUT

There is a fine line!

Some tips…

1. Be cheeky but never rude or disrespectful. The goal is to make the person you’re flirting with feel empowered and good about themselves—not creeped out!
2. Never comment on physical traits – EVER 
3. Unspoken flirting is often the most powerful. A flick of the hair, a playful bite of the lip, a cheeky wink, just the right amount of eye contact, and the way you break it—all of these can draw someone to you without a single word.
4. Adapt your style! The way you flirt with an old friend who knows your humor should (and must) be different from how you flirt with the barista at Starbucks. Remember: sexual harassment is NOT cool, and flirting should never cross that line.

So, my cheeky, naughty bunch of flirters, take these tips and sprinkle some magic into your interactions. Now go out there and flirt your arses off—but for God’s sake, don’t get arrested or fired!